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Dealing with Negativity in a Competitive World

Hello!

A bit of a different post today that I think will resonate with a lot of people. I know from experience that when you decide to pursue something you are passionate about, you get a lot of criticism and negativity. Sometimes it comes from a good place, where people want you to improve or do better, but more often it comes from bitter, competitive people who don’t want you to succeed. What do we do in these situations?

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Jealousy is human nature, and sometimes we can’t help but compare ourselves to others – we wish we were as pretty, fit, fashionable or successful as they are. I know for a fact that everyone, me included, has feelings like this. We live in a competitive world where social media presents us with a host of perfect people living their perfect lives. The only difference is, some people let these feelings turn them into bitter and nasty people, intent to bring others down. That is the completely wrong way to go!

I think that instead of feeling in competition with others, we should all be encouraging one another to pursue what we’re good at, what makes us happy and celebrating that we all have something special to offer. Maybe I’ll never have the body of Tash Oakley but why should that make me hate her? She should be an inspiration to me, not some form of competition. I know that sometimes its difficult to not feel discouraged when comparing yourself to others, but I think we should all realise that jealousy is not a nice quality, being happy and supportive of others is! I’m trying to learn that myself.

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I’m not exactly a fashion pro (or a blogging pro for that matter!) but I really enjoy wearing vintage clothes and finding them second-hand for less. I’d like to think that my blog inspires you all to do the same! This vintage button down dress was from Depop for £8 and paired with a black turtle neck I thought it looked great, especially worn in Liverpool’s stunning Georgian Quarter (p.s. if you haven’t already you should tune in to BBC’s A House Through Time which is about all the people who have lived in 62 Falkner Street since it was built in 1841 – history geeks dreaaaam lol).

Anyway, I hope that this post is insightful for us – even to myself! You’re all my inspiration to improve myself and become a better person. As put perfectly in Mean Girls: “Calling somebody else fat won’t make you any skinnier. Calling someone stupid doesn’t make you any smarter. And ruining Regina George’s life definitely didn’t make me any happier. All you can do in life is try to solve the problem in front of you.” (Actually one of the best films ever amirite.)

I’d really appreciate your ideas for what blog posts you’d like to see next, so leave me a comment below or message me on Instagram with what you think. Thanks very much for reading,

Lydia

 

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