Although you might think a person who starts a fashion blog must be a confident, assured person – you’re wrong. I really struggle with my self confidence and find some days extremely difficult. I think social media only makes this feeling worse when it’s so easy to see ‘likes’ as a reflection of your worth. You see all the examples of perfection on your feed and feel like you just can’t live up to them. Even though I know its stupid to feel this way, I do. Recently I’ve been doubting myself so much, wondering if I was stupid for starting this blog as I feel like I’m neither pretty nor do I have a great body.
I know for a fact that so many people have these exact same feelings, and I want to tell you that you’re not alone. However, I also want to tell you that your worth is NOT defined by your popularity. Your beauty is NOT defined by anyone else’s. You are you and that is what makes you so special!! It’s important to remind each other of these things as it’s so easy to get caught up in what appears to be a perfect world where nobody has any flaws. Although you may feel ‘not good enough’ when compared to others, they may even be feeling the same when compared to you. I think we should always be true to ourselves and support each other along the way!
SO! Why is this relevant to the photos I’m posting today?
After feeling particularly down and self conscious over Christmas, this outfit actually cheered me up. Is that stupid? It made me feel better about my style and I was excited to share it on my blog. Mike told me that I reminded him of a late 1970’s Joni Mitchell which made me feel especially cool! All of this made me reflect on how stupid everything I was feeling was, but also how widespread it is. So – with the agenda of inspiring at least someone, here’s all about this ‘confidence inspiring’ outfit:
Can I just say – THIS LEATHER TRENCH COAT! I am so in love with this coat and you are going to be seeing it a LOT. It was £8 in Age UK and is 100% real leather, originally £385 from M&S!!!!! Can you believe it?! It is honestly what makes this outfit for me and I can’t wait to style it with some different looks. My earrings were 99p in St Rocco’s as well as my vintage round bag (which I talked about in my last post) which was just £3! My sister-in-law (sort of?) bought me this wool high neck top in the most beautiful shade of purple from New Look for Christmas, which I paired with my fav go-to pair of super high waisted grey trousers which were £2 from Marie Curie. My boots were a Christmas present from Mike’s parents and I absolutely LOVE them! I think everyone needs a pair of black ‘witchy-poo’ boots in their lives!!
This outfit truly helped me to feel better about myself and this blog. I really wanted to write this post to remind people that we are all unique, and it’s our imperfections which make us so special. When you have these feelings of doubt and worthlessness just stop and think about all the good things which make you you. I think we need to break this ‘image of perfection’ displayed on social media and just be true to ourselves. Everyone is worth something and everyone has something special which makes them who they are. I ask you to think about yours and go for it!
I hope this post makes at least one person feel better (or want to go to a charity shop lol) and here’s to 2018 being a year of building confidence for us all!